Single mothers,let me get your opinion please!?

I am seperated from my husband right now and we are going through a divorce soon. We have a agreement right now that he pays me $100 for our 2 daughters a week. He saw them last week for 3 days and wont pay me for that week cause he said he had to buy things for the girls. Is that right,or should I just leave it alone?I feel he should have to pay. Give me your opinions please,Thanks!

Single mothers,let me get your opinion please!?
I was never married thank goodness But..finally took him for court for child support..


that sob--makes $8oo a week..


his suffering ---they take $200 of his check every week..


yeah his pissed but---I have control--for my kid--not for me--


is music to my ears..when I hear "child support"





I mean if you have a kid..pay or go to jail ..I love USA LAW..


I think you should get a PD..and they see..how much he makes..and they go by how much he makes..and discount it from his paycheck..





Than I get the check..I should get ONE..every FRIDAY!


for next 18 yrs..I wish I could get my 5 yrs that I was with his SOB ..***.back..lol..





Go back to court and get more money..for your kid's ---Kid's are not cheap..I have ONE..omg..NOT CHEAP..and food..don't let me get started..and clothes..and toy's and education..etc..





Be smart women..and get your life back..and money issues out the window..I mean..if the man is making good money..he should share..with his OWN KID..





EVERYTHING I get from that..I use for her..I don't touch that money..I opened a SAVINGS account in her name..For her college..


$100 will add up after 12mths times 18 or 21 yrs..if his still alive and working lol





do NOT do VERBAL that is WHY i went to court..because instead of money I got toy's for her..DOES NOT COUNT..okay..COURT will take it out his paycheck


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Tommrrow go to court and ask for a PD and they will tell ya


YOUR RIGHTS


good luck sweetie..





mom of 4 yr old..
Reply:He needs to remember that child support is there to make sure a child never goes without. IF he is supposed to pay on a wkly basis then he is too pay. What he buys them when has his kids, is extra. So tell me when you buy them clothes or pay for there dr visits, does that end your responsibility? I don't think so. He should not make this about the money. He needs to remember that kids grow. and whether he has them for 1 or 3 or a week. He still has to pay the child support because they reside with you not him.
Reply:oh no, he pays you for that week





talk to your lawyer, unless he is dirt poor, you can get more money for 2 kids
Reply:He needs to pay you.
Reply:I've been where u are. I will tell you to get it set up by the courts. Don't ever trust he will pay you. My ex was to pay $200 a month. Thats it and still didn't most of my son's life. After fighting in court and missing work the state finally did something and put him in jail every weekend until he did pay. I would suggest you have your lawyer put it in your divorce papers and have it set up thru the state child support agency. They're alot better about making the other parent pay now.
Reply:Better ask him to pay. He'll just use the money for beer, anyhow.
Reply:ok, since you dont say if you have an agreement with the courts about child support, you could leave it alone, however, things will change trust me on this, he will see them a lot now, but as time goes by he wont as much. get this all down in writing through support court, because like everything else, this will "slip his mind" eventually, and you wont have a leg to stand on later. do not feel guilty about it, after all they are his children too, and if he isn't going to be equal parenting, he should at the minimum be equally responsible for the finances it takes to raise them.
Reply:you need to talk to a lawyer now cause you agreeing to the hunderd now could hurt you later. and that is not anough for 2 kids. and please get everything in writing. good luck
Reply:It sounds like there is no court order, which means he legally doesn't have to pay anything. I would go to court and get an order, then it is enforceable.
Reply:I'm a single mother of two, Sometimes u have to take matters in your own hands. Some men feel they can get over on women if we don't put our foot down when it come to support our children. If he still acting as if he don't want to help support your kids. Have u heard of child support do it. I had to, I didn't want to but in the long run now my kids father know he is taking care of his kids as he should. Some men need that push to get them going.
Reply:You can never expect a verbal agreement to work, you need to go thru the courts and have it set up. If it was in the courts then him having them 3 days wouldn't have any effect on the support.
Reply:child support is child support. no matter what. he needs to have a set amount, by a set date, and have those payments sent through your local child support office. they will send you the money as they recieve it, and its legal. if he doesnt pay, they go after him. no matter how many days a week he sees her.
Reply:$100.00 for 2 girls...... thats like highway robbery .... all i can say is been there and done that ....dont take his word he is a man they all lie... i went thru the same thing about 12 years ago with two girls also he was giving me $100.00 a week and when he felt like partying he wouldnt give it to me then he would start over again then when he started dating again he stop again it was a game for like 4 months finally i realized hey i didnt climb on top of myself and made these two girls so i took him to child support and i got 1208.00 a month for 2 girls .... so get with it girlfriend .........TAKE IT TO COURT
Reply:Yes he should have to pay no matter what as a single mother of two that has never gotten a dime of child support and he has nothing at all to do with his kids. Take him to court and they will make him pay if he has a job they can just take it out of his check so dont say anything until you have the man in court and then get what you deserve
Reply:You can totally get more for two kids. He should pay you the support.
Reply:* Well if they were with him for 3 days he doesnt have to pay full price maybe half that ? Talk to your lawyer *
Reply:I believe that yes he should pay you even if he bought the girls something while they where visiting him. Buying something for his daughters does not count for child support. Sit down and talk w/him and let him know that the money he gives you goes only for the girls and every bit he gives you helps out. Hopefully you two will work out something for the sack of your two daughters. Good luck to you and keep your head up.
Reply:You should go through the child support agency, then there would not be a problem like this one. Agreements between two people can very easily be changed. Your ex needs to understand that child support is not just used to feed his kids, but also for their education, their clothes, sports, etc. He owes you the $100. He would probably pay you more than that if you were to go through the child support agency. They take a percentage of his wage....no ifs or buts. If he has a problem with their calculations, then he can try to have it changed. You really need to get cracking and have this done legally because he can stop paying at any time.
Reply:You need to get the child support done through the court and not just trust him to pay it to you. When done through the court it is taken from his check and there are no problems. He is supposed to pay no matter what.
Reply:He got a bargain!! My husband pays $600 a month for one child that actually lives with us!! Child support is based on both parents incomes and how much time is spent with the child. In my case, My husband makes approx $37K a year and his dead-beat ex doesn't work at all. So the courts wanted her to have something while her son visited her for only 2 weeks a month. Oh the joys of the glorious court system.





Bottom line, he should be paying you if that is what you both had agreed on. If you feel that you should be receiving that much you should file through the courts so that when it is ordered it may be garnished from his paycheck. No more hearing excuses, just collecting the support.
Reply:well four hundred dollors a month sounds like he's not paying enough it should be $800 considering how expensive things are especially for a single mom and then he wants to excuse himself to not pay you money i think you should ask him for the money

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