What's ur opinion about who pays when a couple is out ?

A couple of yrs ago it was the man who used to pay for eveyrthing. i actually dont see it as fair , however i think that they should pay most, you know women still need to feel kept well, but i do think that once in a while a woman should pay..





And to those who are married.. Who pays for the food, for children's clothes holidays etc? how do u divide ur money?or do u divide them at all?

What's ur opinion about who pays when a couple is out ?
I am married and we have a joint account, so it doesn't matter who pays its all from the same pot.
Reply:When we were first going out we took it in turns, or the person that thought of teh idea paid.





Then when we got engaged and married we had a joint account. We don't divide it at all, whats his is mine and vice versa. As a married couple you should be a unity and share everything.
Reply:If I was on a date with a man, I'd expect him to pay. It's only good manners. If he started expecting me to pay, I'd think he was cheeky (not in a good way) and wouldn't see him again. Then on the next date to make it up I'd pay.





But when I'm dating another woman I pay, definitely.
Reply:I am married and we really don't plan out who pays for anything. It just depends really on who decides to do it. Especially for like food and stuff, if one person goes shopping or something, then of course that one person pays for it. But if we go together, sometimes we split it other times we don't. It's never the same in my house lol.
Reply:My DBF and I live together (going on 2 years). Right now, (for the last year) I've been paying whenever we go out (gas, food, entertainment) UNLESS he offers which is not very often lately. He pays for the house (whatever he owes on it since its his house) and all his bills. He also pays electricity (I have chipped in before), phone and $70 bi weekly toward the groceries. He pays for his insurances and I pay for mine. I also pay a mortgage on a house I own and all my bills, plus the joint cable tv bill and whatever comes for the joint house expenses (walmart items), etc. and all the rest of the groceries outside of the $70 bi weekly. Now that we have a baby on the way I've also paid everything to get ready for her too.





I don't really see this as a fair agreement - it'd probably be a better agreement if I weren't paying for a mortgage of my own on the side. I still think the man should pay most everytime you go out anywhere unless the woman offers to chip in. I usually get the "I can't afford to go here or there" and since I do all the cooking I want a break every once in a while but its usually up to me to give myself that break.





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Reply:the man should be the main sponsor for the family. it is ok for the the woman to contribute if she want if she feels that the burden is too high on her man
Reply:Unless I'm paying, or we agree to go 50-50, then we don't go out. We had a joint account, but she also has her own, into which she has always had her wages paid.


I pay all the utility bills, rent, council tax, car insurance, tax, repairs, fuel etc, while we split the telephone bill. I also give her the shopping money each month, to which she normally puts a bit toward. Holiday expenses are usually split. Well, I'm skint after all that and she can't understand why, when I'm earning well below the national average.
Reply:If your a new couple then you should split the cost. (These day some women make more than the man). If your date insists he pay then let him,making a deal that you pay a different date. I'm married and we have a joint account. I take care of the bills and balance our accounts. My hubby gets his check,takes some to last him for the week(lunch,cigs,etc). Works out fine for us
Reply:I'm married and all of our money goes into our joint accounts...
Reply:Yes it is fair for a woman to pay occasionally if she is working when you are dating. In my marriage my husband paid for everything because I was a stay at home mom. He never complained no matter what we needed. Years later when the children were gone and I had my own job he let me spend what I wanted . If your spouse works outside the home and you don't have a lot of disposable income then you should share expenses. My husband says he made the living and I made the living good.
Reply:Always a tricky question. Money will ruin things everytime.


Go into the money question based on salaries.


Or just decide. And it has to be fair.


I always made more money than my spouse so I paid mortgage, heat and light, water and my own clothes and half the kids expenses. He paid cable tv ( sports channels!) insurance , groceries ( he does the shopping) and his own clothes and half the kids stuff. It sort of worked, but it was hard to save money for vacations and extras because he isn't good at that.


As for going out for dinner... it just depended - we;d usually decide on advance. 50-50 he pays, I pay, depends on who has more cash ( we don't use credit cards in restaurants) to afford the treat that particular day.


Be flexible, remember the children are yours as well. So don't be stupid about it. Ultimately, be practical too. WE women are high maintenance, clothes, shoes, bags, personal hygiene stuff, cosmetics, gym, etc etc. But don't go in debt either.


I'll stop now. this is a hot topic.
Reply:My husband deals with money matters, pay's for everything, siggghhhhh. When my daughter and her boyfriend eat out they share payment or they take turns to pay for supper etc. When they go out in a group they all pay their share and those who drank more than the others pay extra.:)
Reply:when you are dating you should take turns paying for things. and when you are married you should have a joing account and everything should be done together.
Reply:I've been with my boyfriend 6 years. When we first started going out we paid equal for everything, we were both poor students so it only seems fair. Now we pay for different things. I pay for us to go away a couple of times a year and for the odd meal and Steve will pay for meals out and will buy me lots of things. Sometimes we pay equal though.





Work it out between you and your girlfriend. If she expects you to pay for everything she might be a gold digger, or she might just think that you want to pay for everything and is too polite to say no.
Reply:me and my girl always pay half when we go out, she wants to pay, and i want to pay too so we both pay half. My mum pays food; clothes etc. my dad:electricity; school fees when i was younger.
Reply:If the couple is not married and dating the man should pay.Being married there is no her money and his money.It is their money,so it doesn't matter who pays,It all comes from the same pot.
Reply:it dosn't matter as long as you have a good time if you don't pay in money you pay in other ways anyway...
Reply:I always pay for outings, even when its agreed the lady says its "her turn". I guess she feels obligated and dosn't want to give the impression she is a "kept" woman. But its a "man thing" to pay even after marriage when the monies all end up in the same account
Reply:I think a couple should talk about that and make a plan. You could also be spontaneous and say "I'll pay".
Reply:If the guy asks the girl out, he should pay. If the girl asks the guy out, she should pay unless the guy doesn't want her to.





My fiance and I live together and share all income and bills. I don't see the sense in keeping your money separate when you're in the same household.
Reply:I think 50/50 is the way to go these days. Women want equal rights and all so they should get the full package and that includes paying for some of the things...If I had a boyfriend I wouldn't mind paying half our expenses.
Reply:I'm married. We have a joint account and each our own separate account. When we go out to eat, he usually is the one to whip out the card, but it's coming out of the joint. All money is treated as equal. We don't divide things, like I pay this bill, you pay that one. We know what it takes to run the household and as long as that's in the account we're fine. Anything extra goes into our individual accounts depending on who's "extra" it is... and/or our joint savings account (we treat that payment as a bill also)





Also I know we women are independent and all, but I still like it when the man pays (or at LEAST offer to) .... I'm just old school I guess...
Reply:Well before we married and had kids we went half's or if we went to the cinema and a meal after wards one pays for the meal and one for the cinema now that we have kids i always pay if we're out as a family cause hubby pays all the house bill's and the car and mortgage if we're out together he pays i like to pay when we're out as a family it just feels right and it feel' like I'm making a contribution.


We have a joint account for big purchases for the house ,i pay for all the stuff the kids needs clothes pocket money school holidays entertainment Hubby pays for the main holiday I'll treat us to a weekend now and then ,we keep our money separate and pay in an agreed amount each month to the joint account.


This is how we've worked our money for the past 12 years since becoming parents and it's worked out fine for both of us


I do pay my own credit card bills and buy my own clothes
Reply:this can be quite a taboo subject!


honestly I hate all this feminism crap so realistically I would prefer a guy to pay for things - but having said that i ALWAYS offer to pay my own way.


I guess where both people are working its only right, unless the guy earns way more than the girl!


Ive been in a relationship where the guy used pay for everything despite me offering to chip in, but I repaid his kindness in other ways - helping him out, doing nice things for him etc.


Ive also been in a relationship where we used split everything 50/50 and whilst I didnt mind doing it - you always have that niggly little feeling about how you'd prefer if the guy was a bit more dominant and treated you!


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Reply:Well I wont lie I'm a woman and like acting like one! I guess I'm just old fashioned in that way. I'm glad I found a man that feels the same way, I know alot of men these days want it to be 50/50, but I wouldn't really like that I like my guy buying the stuff and paying for everything. In a marriage though there is no his or her its theirs!
Reply:I'm married and we have a joint account so we don't divide it as such, however my wife has a part time job (a few hours a week) and she has separate account for her earnings so she can use that to pay for her hobby.


Before we were married I would pay if we went out.
Reply:i like this question,


well my hubby and i try to each pay the bills, food, clothes and what ever elc we need toether, like if we go out some where to eat one will pay the bill and one will pay the tip, or we will both pay the bill and the tip. it is just whom ever has the money right then to pay it.
Reply:Take it in turns
Reply:In my experience, men enjoy treating their woman, but since I work and don't like to feel like a mooch, sometime I sneakily prepay tickets or pay the bill while he isn't looking as a surprise - it's a fun mix up and I think it shows him I have no problem with it, but I still appreciate him treating me. =)
Reply:I agree with you about the man paying for the majority of the time, but every so often I believe the woman should say "I'm buying dinner tonight"...or w/e the occasion is.


I'm married and everything comes out of a joint account for us now.











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Reply:If I went out on a date and the man didn't offer to pay I would walk out and leave him with his drink over his head. How f*****g ungentlemanly. I don't give a **** about feminism....I just want a free meal...

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